Answer is basically: you have to exercise like you mean it: short & intense at least 4x a week. You have to cut down on sugar. You have to watch your trans fats (cakes, biscuits, pastry). You should drink plenty of water. You should eat natural & unpackaged foods. You should avoid crunches & sit ups!! Otherwise, in reality just eat healthily, everything in moderation, try and do some high intensity exercise and learn to love your body, especially if you have produced children!! SMILE!!